Trans is not necessarily homo
It does make you a homosexual which in turn makes you a faggot.
Dear stranger,
If you made this statement without actually consulting anything except my initial question, which did not imply I tend to female homosexuality, then please fuck you. Transsexuality does not imply homosexuality. This is so basic stuff I feel silly explaining it.
Yes, if you use the notion that one’s performed gender (which changes in transition) is used as reference for “homosexuality” and “heterosexuality”, then most trans people who transition are, either before or after it, homosexual. This is not true of truly neutral pansexuals (or bisexuals) or those lacking such affection entirely. The idea that transsexuality necessitates homosexuality is, frankly, absurd.
Sincerest disdain,
TR
PS.:
Why is she advertising herself in the first place?
First, why I am seeking attention is well documented here and you could ask me directly if you actually cared. Second, the wording here using “advertising” sounds pointlessly like sexualization of women. If you meant it in that way, fuck off.
Striking out: After considering some arguments in favour of the term “bisexuality”, i’d rather not display such passive-aggressive disdain for it any longer.
Being gay is perfectly okay (and trans isn’t)
no be gay is perfectly ok!
Obviously they didn’t even get to notice that I am gay in my actual gender, not in the gender that would be congruent with my current sex.
It makes things complicated
im a gay female and trans women kinda weird me out
its just bc if you like women be with women if you like men be with men but when you get into trans gender idk it makes things complicated
im just saying as a women who likes women i like girls who look like girls
not a man who is now a girl idk i cant get my head around that
(I disagree with some of the terminology - “girls” without using “boys”, and “female” as a noun - but that isn’t important and irrelevant here.)
This is essentialism. Trans women aren’t men, and they weren’t ever men. They are women who happened to be born male-bodied. There is an implied and wrong distinction between “girls who look like girls” and “men who are now girls” too. Trans women can be(come) “girls who look like girls” too, or more accurately, trans women can have a typically feminine-female appearance too.
Nonetheless, refer to my earlier dating advice: if you’re uncomfortable dating trans people, then, well, I’d say you’re allowed to ask those who you intend to date whether they are trans. You’re allowed not to date trans people for being trans, because whom you date or do not date is entirely up to you.
Do you find that people are more or less accepting of you when they learn that you identify yourself as lesbian, than they do when they learn that you are transsexual?
Anonymous
Since I in person am currently far from passing as woman, either the outing as lesbian as such or the realization that my (primary) attraction to women is lesbian not heterosexual usually comes after the outing as trans. It usually doesn’t help.
I’ve had a lot of people recently invoke the orientation card; it basically goes like this:
Why are you trans if you’d be lesbian then?
- For the same reasons that you are trans/cis and hetero/homo/pan/a, presumably.
- I see gender identity as distinct from sexual orientation. If sexual orientation was inherent to gender identity, would gay men then be “not real men” and lesbians “not real women”? Maybe. I reject the assertion that it is inherent in that way entirely.
- Suppose we could choose both our gender identities and our sexual orientation more or less freely. Would it then be “clever” to “maximize” my attractiveness by conforming to common heteronormative trends? First, why bother if everyone can adapt, and second, no, I wouldn’t “play the game” of dating and “maximize” my scores, I’d choose to be whoever I’d want to be (if that were possible).
On text mediums such as the internet (the parts that I frequent anyhow) I have as of now experienced that, as might be expected, coming out as an assumedly cis lesbian is more accepted than coming out as an assumedly hetero trans woman. If you combine the two, the intersectionality works out similarly to what you’d expect.
On the biological wrongness of homosexuality
This isn’t directly related to the focus of this project, but I guess I just wanted to throw it out there:
- Being gay doesn’t make the entire species go extinct.
- Being gay can be evolutionary advantageous considering relatives.
- Being gay occurs in animals and is therefore natural.
More importantly, it doesn’t fucking matter whether being gay is “natural” or “evolutionary advantageous”.
